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December 25, 2013

Commit Acts of Kindness

Filed under: Uncategorized — trp2011 @ 6:36 PM
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Yesterday, I ran some last-minute errands before a guest arrived to spend the Christmas holidays with us. Later I pondered the acts of kindness that I experienced.

Every year I take a few picture books to add to the library at the local Presbyterian church. Since I arrived in this community over two decades ago, the pastor has strongly supported the LGBT rights issues, even when the more traditional members of his church threatened him with firing. I talked with him briefly this year, and he said that he regularly read the books to seniors in assisted living.

Moving on to pick up a few last-minute groceries, I watched my local checker at the small grocery store as she strode back to the bakery department declaiming, “You don’t want hard bread.” A man sitting in a wheelchair waited to check out while she got him a better loaf.

Then I thought of all the things that my partner does for me, such as going out to start the car in freezing weather so that it will be comfortable when it get there. She laughs at me for making a big thing about this, saying it’s not a really big deal. To me, however, it’s an important act of kindness.

 Dr. Mary Pham in Irvine (CA) is one of these people who make the world a better place. A straight woman, Pham is a Vietnamese American chiropractic doctor who came to the United States following the fall of Saigon. Despite hateful protests from some neighbors, she has exhibited a sense of pride for the LGBT community through holiday lights on her house topped by a pride flag with the Italian word for “peace.”


According to Pham, her best friends are gay, but they can’t put up flags or lights on their rental apartments. The kindness has trickled down: her straight son goes to gay bars with Pham’s friends. As Pham was interviewed for a newspaper article, a neighbor walked by and said, “I love the decoration on your house.”

On this holiday, thanks to all the kind acts from people who might not think that they are a “really big deal.”


  1. Thank you for reminder.


    Comment by Renée LaChance — December 26, 2013 @ 12:41 PM | Reply

  2. Your blog–and your production of our PFLAG newsletter are other acts of kindness that should be acknowledged–all year long. Thanks for being you–and for taking time to put into your well-chosen words the facts and opinions that make our lives better, richer, and more coherent.


    Comment by Jeanne St.John — December 26, 2013 @ 11:49 AM | Reply

  3. Lovely stories. Thank your for your kindness and hard work in giving us these blogs.


    Comment by Lee Lynch — December 25, 2013 @ 10:28 PM | Reply

  4. perfect – re-posted to Facebook


    Comment by emlynchly — December 25, 2013 @ 8:35 PM | Reply

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